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Abuse and domestic violence
Frank Adams Riley
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Dec 6 2006, 03:47 pm
Your home is somewhere that you should feel safe and looked after. Nobody's family is perfect and arguments happen. There are times when things go too far and young people get hurt either physically or emotionally or aren't looked after properly. Abuse and domestic violence happens in all kinds of families from all kinds of backgrounds. If you are worried, you're not alone - read on to find out more and for helplines you can call where someone who understands will listen and be able to advise you on what to do next. Abuse Young people may be hurt by an adult or another young person in several ways. Abuse can be any of the following: Physical Abuse This includes being beaten, kicked or punched. Sexual Abuse This includes being touched in a way you don't like, being forced to have sex, made to look at sexual pictures or videos, or anything else that makes you feel uncomfortable. Emotional Abuse This includes constant name-calling, being threatened, being made fun of or made to feel small, and often seeing violence between the people who care for you. Neglect This is when you don't have somewhere to stay, enough food to eat, clothes to keep you warm, or if you are not looked after properly. Abuse can make you feel all kind of emotions - unloved, afraid, angry, ashamed, guilty, small or unimportant. It can be especially confusing if the person who is hurting you is someone you trusted or looked up to. Nobody has the right to make you feel like this. If you are worried and not sure if it's abuse or not, it's important you talk to someone you trust. You need to remember that you're not alone. and you can always speak to an Connexions Direct adviser or you can call the NSPCC 24 hour free helpline on 0808 800 5000. You could also call ChildLine on 0800 1111 - it's free and the number won't show up on your phone bill. Domestic Violence Domestic violence is aggression or violence that happens in the home when a grown up attacks or threatens another adult in the family. Domestic violence can happen in any family and in all kinds of homes. You might have seen someone being hurt, heard it, or you may have been hurt too. You're not alone. More than half a million incidents of domestic violence are reported in England and Wales each year. Most victims are women, but domestic violence can happen to men too. Almost 2,000 children a year contact ChildLine due to domestic violence problems. If you or someone else is being hurt in your house, here's what you can do: Talk to someone you like and trust such as a teacher, friend or social worker (if you have one). They can listen to your problem and talk about what to do next Keep yourself safe. Find a safe place, like your bedroom, to hide until the violence is over Only help whoever is being hurt if it means you won't place yourself at risk Call the police or ambulance on 999 Call the national 24 hour freephone domestic violence helpline 0808 2000 247 Call ChildLine on 0800 1111 - it's free and the number won't show up on your phone bill Who can help If you feel scared or in danger call ChildLine at any time on 0800 1111 - it's free and the number won't show up on your phone bill. You can also visit there website at www.childline.co.uk. The NSPCC Don't hide it campaign also provides help and advice on what to do if you or a friend are facing any sort of sex abuse. Visit www.donthideit.com. You can also call the NSPCC on 0808 800 5000. The Hideout website to support children and young people living with domestic violence, or to those who may want to help a friend. The site informs children and young people about domestic violence and helps them identify whether it is happening in their home. www.thehideout.org.uk Broken Rainbow is a UK wide confidential helpline service for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people of all ages who experience domestic violence. To find out more visit www.broken-rainbow.org.uk. You can call the national 24 hour freephone domestic violence helpline on 0808 200 247 Speak to someone in your family you can trust, a close friend or the police if you feel you are in danger. You can speak to a Personal Adviser at your local Connexions Centre. To find your local centre click on the Local Services icon in the footer of the homepage or check out your local phone book. You can contact a Connexions Direct Adviser by phone on 080 800 13 2 19, by text on 07766 4 13 2 19, by textphone 08000 968 336, by adviser online or by email. |
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Re: Abuse and domestic violence
Jacqueline Wilhelmina Alexandrina Ritchie Madsen
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May 19 2007, 12:26 am
Dear Tressie Thankyou so much for putting this on your site there are a lot of survivors like myself that remian silent which allows these deviates to continue to harm. As a very young child I was molested it started when I was in grade 3, I carried this with me into adulthood & spoke to no one until I was in my 40's I write this with tears for all the other little children that are going through this. I truly believed this would all somehow erase when my abuser died however I now now I will take this to my grave I have been left with an imprint on my mind that I can see when I shut my eyes that little girl in her white pj's with pink flowers & tiny green leaves walking room to room carrying an iron & in each room plugging it in believing if I had a hot iron I would have some defense. I am going on 60 yrs & understand this was not my fault but the perverted mind & actions of a very sick person however a part of me died over the years this went on & I feel robbed maybe this is why I've take in numerous unwanted animals over the years & help neglected/needy children by knitting something nice for them so they can feel good about who they are possibly this is my lifelong healing therapy-please don't think I sit around & dwell on this he is really not worth giving anymore of my life to he stole enough sometimes things trigger those bad memories & I hope by writing this it may in someway help someone to stop the abuse in their lives & talk to the Police which I was unable to do-when I was young children were never believed adults were always right-I am so happy things have changed & there is now help If I can give advise to Parents/anyone out there watch the people right under your nose this person married my sister, held a responsible job & was adored by all family members MR PERSONALITY he appeared the doting husband and Father-he also molested his step daughter my niece & to top it off this wonderful person beat my sister to a pulp & my darling Mother ask what she did to make him so angry when Mother dearest said this I knew I couldn't tell her what he did tome because I was sure that she would blame me too. Only God knows how many others he did this to over his years Child molesters are whatever they must be so they can go undected SILENCE IS NOT GOLDEN-PHYSICAL WOUNDS HEAL BUT THE DEADNESS NEVER RETURNS Love Jacquie Ritchie Madsen Thankyou wonderful lady for once again you're doing what you do best reaching out & touching people hearts |
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